Divorce can be a painful and challenging process. Many emotions plaque both parties and make it tough to proceed with dignity and kindness during the settlement process. Having the resolve to get past the pain and accept that the end of the relationship is the best possible solution will help make sorting out your life more manageable. Together with some knowledge, perseverance and a bit of diligence, an amicable agreement may be available to couples who are willing to choose a path of respect and compassion.
You don’t have to spend a fortune to get a divorce if both parties are agreeable – and this is a big plus. Knowing your options can help avoid chipping away at the savings you both worked to amass. If you and your spouse are willing to be fair – and you believe an agreement can be reached without having to pay enormous attorney fees (and allowing a judge to decide your fate), please consider the options below:
Mediation – a professionally trained mediator helps amicably negotiate a fair settlement that you both agree to implement. You will have to pay for a mediator, but it’s usually a fraction of the cost of hiring attorneys and taking your case to court.
Collaborative Law – both parties hire trained collaborative attorneys to help you meditate and negotiate a divorce agreement without taking it to court. Again, I must remind you; once you go before a judge the negotiation process is over, and now the judge decides on the settlement. Do you really want a complete stranger deciding how to end your marriage or do you both have enough compassion for one another to be fair and agreeable on your own?
Agreed Upon Divorce – you and your spouse reach an agreement regarding the division of your marital assets, child support, child care and spousal support, etc. An agreed-upon divorce requires effective communication, sensibility, and compassion; by using this method, you save the most as well as gain a great sense of pride and dignity.
Not every divorce can be an amicable process. If litigation does become necessary, find an experienced trial attorney to represent you through the process. Keep in mind, however; when you go to trial, you give up your rights to make the final decisions and instead give this power to a judge.
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